It took almost a live time but Dorien Hammann never gave up and it resulted in a mother daughter reunion after 80 years. For anyone looking for family, this is another story proving that you should never give up and it is never too late to find your birth family. Even if it means finding your 99 year old mother.
From the original story in the Chicago Tribune: Mother and Daughter Reunited After Adoption
Dorien Hammann, 83 was able to call her mother Eileen Wagner on the phone for the first time in her life recently. Hammann’s daughter-in-law, Jeanette Foster, looked up Hammann’s birth family online. Foster did not tell Hammann that she was doing the research for her until she found Hammann’s mother. Foster typed in information she remembered from the adoption document that they had. They knew that Dorien’s original name was Beverly Ann and her mother was Eileen Krug. Foster put in “Beverly Krug and Wisconsin” where they new she had been born,— into Google. Just a little later, Foster found an obituary for Wagner’s brother, which listed the 99-year-old living in Monroe as his survivor. They were able to find where she was living in Monroe and call her.
It was 1932. Wagner, then 16, and a girlfriend were walking home from the library in De Pere, Wis., the Green Bay suburb where she grew up. Just after crossing a bridge, the friends bumped into two young men. Her girlfriend knew one of them, she said. The teens walked together until the other boy suggested that he and Wagner take a shortcut through the park to get her home before her 10 p.m. curfew. She agreed, and he sexually assaulted her, she said.
Wagner, who never saw the young man again, became pregnant and hid it from her parents as long as she could. When they eventually found out, they sent her to a home in Milwaukee that took in pregnant girls planning to give up babies for adoption. For three months, with only a handful of visits from her father, Wagner cleaned, worked in the nursery and washed sheets as chores while waiting to give birth, she recalled.”
“The experience made such an impression on Wagner that she was inspired to go to nursing school to follow the example of the nurses who cared for her. Yet she shared her story with only one person — her husband, Richard, whom she met in nursing school and married in 1938.
“Everything is so open now, but years ago, that was taboo,” explained Wagner, who said it was difficult to hide the past from her close-knit family.”
Mother Daughter Reunion
Wagner had never told her children or anyone else about Beverly Ann but she said she never stopped thinking about her. Her only concern was the well being of the baby she gave away.
On April 25, 10 days after Hammann’s 83rd birthday, she and her husband arrived in Monroe to meet her mother for the first time. “Wagner recalled using her walker to get closer to the window, so she could see Hammann and her husband — both also using walkers — make their way up the driveway. She immediately saw the resemblance in her daughter’s face.
For two and a half hours, the mother and daughter talked and discovered uncanny similarities. Both women had large hands. Both continued golfing past their 80th birthdays. Both preferred their hair short, in pixie cuts.”
This story gives everyone looking for their birth mother especially new hope. This story with a similar one published lately about a reunion after 82 years, just goes to show it is never too late to find not only your birth mother but a still living birth mother that has always been thinking about you.
Read the whole original story in the Chicago Tribune: Mother and Daughter Reunited After Adoption